When considering employee retention, HR professionals must realize that turnover doesn’t begin with a resignation letter. It starts much earlier—and it’s quieter. A skipped lunch, a missed meeting, fewer Slack messages. These small signs often signal something much bigger: an employee pulling away. Long before someone quits, they disconnect. And in today’s networked workplace, social withdrawal is often the first—and most reliable—indicator that someone’s already halfway out the door.
While voluntary turnover has dropped to 13.5 percent—a sharp decline from 24.7 percent in 2022—that doesn’t mean employees are engaged. According to Gallup, more than half of U.S. workers are either actively searching or watching for new jobs. One in three say they’re ready to quit—even without something else lined up. This isn’t just dissatisfaction. It’s detachment. And it’s quietly reshaping our workforce.
Gallup calls this the “Great Detachment.” Employees are still showing up—but they’ve stopped buying in. They’re physically present, but relationally and emotionally checked out. And if left unchecked, this detachment becomes the precursor to departure.
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Employee retention: Why people leave before they leave
Network analysis has consistently identified one of the most powerful—and overlooked—predictors of employee turnover: social isolation. While compensation, career mobility, and flexibility certainly matter, they rarely tell the whole story. People don’t just leave because of what they’re missing in their role. They leave because of what they’re missing in their relationships. When employees feel disconnected from their peers, excluded from informal conversations, or cut off from trusted collaborators, a sense of belonging erodes. And once that sense of belonging fades, disengagement—and eventual departure—often follows.
Employees on the edge of the network—those with limited connections—are two to three times more likely to quit. Without strong ties, they’re often left out of critical conversations, informal support, and growth opportunities. In fact, disengagement typically begins at the edges, long before it shows up anywhere else.
But a new pattern is emerging inside organizations: some employees aren’t just stuck on the edges—they’re choosing to move there. They're intentionally stepping back from collaboration, reducing their interactions, and moving to the periphery of the network by design rather than by default.
Just consider the organization below, it represents an operations group of just over 40 employees within a global consumer goods company, a network analysis revealed a disturbing trend. Six employees—represented in yellow nodes (Figure 1)—were only connected to one other colleague. Several more had just two connections. And while that level of isolation is concerning on its own, what made it worse was that nearly half of these individuals were previously well-connected just a year earlier. They hadn’t just become isolated. They had chosen to pull back.
Figure 1. Operations group from consumer goods company
A recent study from Thred provided even more compelling evidence: employees who had recently resigned had 36 percent fewer connections than the company average. Even more telling, they were twice as likely to report having no meaningful friendship relationships at work. These findings point to a deeper insight—relational connectedness is more than a cultural asset; it’s a predictive signal. Building strong interpersonal ties may be one of the most underutilized levers in improving employee retention.
The contagious nature of the center
Research has long shown that employees at the center of an organizational network—those with many active connections—are 24 percent less likely to leave. These individuals, much like the red nodes in Figure 1, are deeply embedded and often serve as the glue that holds teams together. Their centrality provides access to information, influence and support.
And when those connections go beyond the professional—when they include genuine friendships—their likelihood of staying increases even more. Research has found that employees engaged in dual-purpose relationships—blending both professional collaboration and personal rapport—were 37 percent less likely to quit than those with purely transactional ties. When relationships go beyond the task at hand, people are more likely to stay—not just for the work, but for the sense of shared connection.
But here’s where it gets more complex. When well-connected, central employees become burned out, disengaged or disillusioned with the organization’s direction, their influence can shift from stabilizing to destabilizing. According to Thred’s research, when a central employee leaves, as much as 25 percent of their immediate network is likely to follow within months. These aren’t isolated exits—they’re relational chain reactions.
In highly collaborative environments, the ripple effect of a single departure can quickly cascade across a team. Employees who leave often hold more than just a role—they serve as connectors, mentors and informal leaders whose influence stretches far beyond their job title. When they exit, it disrupts not only workflows but the underlying trust networks that hold teams together. Like a contagion, quitting spreads through connection: the closer someone is to a departing colleague, the more likely they are to re-evaluate their own sense of belonging, purpose, and place within the organization.
The effect can cascade across teams, departments and even geographies—especially in highly collaborative organizations. Like a virus, quitting spreads through proximity. The closer you are to someone who leaves, the more likely you are to consider it too.
What HR can—and should—do
For HR leaders, the implications are clear: employee connection is no longer a soft metric. It’s a strategic one. The good news? Relationships are something organizations can influence—with intention.
Here are four high-impact ways to foster friendship—and reduce attrition:
1. Use network analysis to spot flight risk early
Conduct regular organizational network analysis to identify employees with few or declining connections. These individuals are not just disengaged—they’re already on their way out. Early detection can inform re-engagement strategies or personalized outreach. And if you can’t run an analysis, just watch. Notice who is leaning back more often than they used to.
2. Facilitate moments of connection
Friendship doesn’t form by accident—especially in hybrid or remote settings. Use tools like interest-based matching (for example, Thred’s Stitches) to facilitate meaningful one-to-one meetups. Host curated mixers, team swaps or mentorship pairings that prioritize human connection, not just transactional interactions.
3. Support relationship-rich teams
Encourage cross-functional initiatives where both personal rapport and professional trust can develop. Invest in psychologically safe team cultures that allow for vulnerability, shared experience and the blending of professional and personal interest.
4. Routinely pulse check with central employees
Central employees with high trust capital have the greatest influence on the network. If they’re thriving, they’ll lift others with them. But if they’re frustrated or burned out, their exit could trigger a talent drain. Keep these employees close—and engaged.