Can You Pass the Business Etiquette Test?
1. Is the following a proper introduction?:
"I would like you to meet my boss, Mr. Strong. Mr. Strong, this is Ms. Young, our new client?"
Answer: This is incorrect. The client is the person of most importance. They should be "introduced" first. "Mr. Strong, this is our new client, Ms. Young. Ms. Young, this is my boss, Mr. Strong." Mentioning Mr. Strong’s name first is not an introduction but a courtesy to your client. This also gives the client two opportunities to hear his/her name.
2. When shaking hands, should a man wait for a woman to extend her hand first or should he extend his hand without waiting?
Answer: The shaking of hands has become gender neutral. Either can extend their hand.
3. When entering a room, who enters first…the host or the visitor?
Answer: The host enters the room first. This allows the host to direct the visitor as they enter.
4. If you have not been introduced, do you introduce yourself?
Answer: Yes. It is appropriate to introduce yourself by saying something like: "I don’t believe we have met. My name is Tom. I’m Paula’s husband." If the person does not say their name, ask them by saying… "and you are?" or, "I’m sorry, I did not hear your name…" (I am guilty of this. My husband has gotten very good at introducing himself.)
5. If you have forgotten someone’s name, is it okay to approach them, start talking and not ask?
Answer: No. There are several approaches here. You can say your name when approaching. This will prompt them to say their name, and it will also help them in the event they have forgotten your name. Or, simply say: "My mind has just gone blank, your name is? Of course; and repeat their name." This will help you to remember it as well. The rule is, say a name three times while looking at the person and you should remember it the next time you meet.
Answer: No. Walls are thin. You never know who could hear details of your private life or business transactions. Note: It is also unacceptable to speak in a foreign language to a colleague while in the company of others.
Answer: Visual, according to the professor. Your visual appearance, your wardrobe, body language and posture convey the strongest message. And don’t forget to smile.
Answer: Three feet. Any further you would be yelling; any closer you will be invading personal space. Note: Distance does vary depending on culture. Be aware of cultural differences before conducting business in a foreign country.
Answer: Yes. This applies to any potentially embarrassing situation such as: food, lipstick on teeth, or crawling creatures. Take the person aside and gently advise of the situation.
Answer: The host, the one who did the invite pays for the lunch. Check policy before inviting a client to lunch and check the prices too.
Answer: Yes, announce all present. If someone comes in late, at the first opportune moment simply say, "Mike Smith from Engineering just joined us." Prompt Mike to extend a greeting to whomever you are speaking with.
Answer: Yes. Same goes with e-mail. Simply inform when you will return to the office and, if needed, who they should contact in your absence. This is a courtesy to people who are trying to reach you. It is also good business sense.
Answer: No. There is no such thing as confidential e-mail. If you read my last article I said, "It’s like being a little bit pregnant." Also, large attachments can take time to load. Do not send without asking first.
Answer: No. Use discretion. If this is a generally accepted practice, then fine. However, eavesdropping on your colleagues can be considered rude and indulgent.
Finally, you would think we should all know this one…
Answer: YES. Put your phone on silent mode. Inform your colleagues that you are expecting a call, if you must. If at a conference, be respectful of the speaker and fellow attendees.
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